Common perception is that one has no control over falling in love. It is fate, destiny or whatever you may that brings that one special person in your life and you trip. That simple, right? Well, maybe not!
Maybe there is a choice and you can control who you fall in love with. The idea came to me after reading a short play by Alex Broun called Fate's Steady Hands.
In the play, at one point the protagonist is describing a moment after he met someone when he knows there is a possibility, a potential that he could fall in love. And if he keeps meeting that person, keeps interacting, keeps communicating, the inevitable head over heels would happen!
The protagonist says:
"...at the start there is a moment where you can actually feel yourself falling in love. The heart gives you a choice -- accept or deny?"
So if you don't increase the intensity of interactions, the intense emotion of love will not show its face. Right?
Wrong again! A little thinking revealed that you would not know if you do love or don't love a person unless you interact with him or her over a considerable period of time. And then either you do 'fall' or don't, either way it is way too late to change the course fate has taken.
We have also heard of love at first sight, but that's just pure fantasy.
You just do, I mean fall in love. There is no choice. No control over when and with who and why. It is a weird reaction to that special person. Or is it?
If it is reciprocated, wonderful. If not, you carry on with the pain of unrequitted love searing your heart, till your eyes meet that other special person you are destined to be with...or so 'they' say!
I am still clueless!!
Maybe there is a choice and you can control who you fall in love with. The idea came to me after reading a short play by Alex Broun called Fate's Steady Hands.
In the play, at one point the protagonist is describing a moment after he met someone when he knows there is a possibility, a potential that he could fall in love. And if he keeps meeting that person, keeps interacting, keeps communicating, the inevitable head over heels would happen!
The protagonist says:
"...at the start there is a moment where you can actually feel yourself falling in love. The heart gives you a choice -- accept or deny?"
So if you don't increase the intensity of interactions, the intense emotion of love will not show its face. Right?
Wrong again! A little thinking revealed that you would not know if you do love or don't love a person unless you interact with him or her over a considerable period of time. And then either you do 'fall' or don't, either way it is way too late to change the course fate has taken.
We have also heard of love at first sight, but that's just pure fantasy.
Coming back to the choice of falling in love, I remember this guy I was dating once. He was cute! Anyhow, one evening, after spending a rather nice time chatting over coffee, he held my hands and said, "sweetheart I am trying to fall in love with you"..????.
I couldn't say much except smile, cos I thought I had not heard him correct. "Trying to fall in love" is that ever possible?
If it is reciprocated, wonderful. If not, you carry on with the pain of unrequitted love searing your heart, till your eyes meet that other special person you are destined to be with...or so 'they' say!
I am still clueless!!
I don't think you have a choice - you fall in love or not, no third choice. I agree, you cant try to fall in love. The guy who said that is a darn idiot.
ReplyDeleteYou can fall in love twice, I dunno perhaps thrice. But its a tough task. And every next time is even tougher, because you remember the last time round ... so stick to what you have got and let life take care of you:)
Great my play got you think Jayati.
ReplyDeleteDrop me an email and maybe we can talk some more. Where are you based in India? I come there quite a lot.
Bw,
Alex Broun
abroun@bigpond.net.au